The most valuable resource you don't value

My most valuable resource

In 2025, I discovered something that truly forced me to change. Before becoming a father, I had ALL the time in the world. I just never worried about it. It was never in short supply so I never treated it with the value it deserved. After becoming a father, WOW it changed. Suddenly I went from having all the hours outside of work to having an hour or two in the evening at best. Some days there would just be no time.

I stopped sleeping in. I stopped wasting time on scrolling. I even started getting up earlier just to get more time in. I never thought I would have to push myself so much just to get extra time and it’s becoming more important to me by the day.

Waking up early is now a huge priority for me, but I couldn’t do it until I truly valued my time. There is a pressure to make the most of that time. Being tired in the morning, I rush for that morning coffee. Feeling sluggish and unfocused, I habitually open twitch or some other platform I can stare at mindlessly. BUT the pressure and the value of time has started to kick in. I delay the coffee and close the time wasters and incant to myself

This is Important. Time is Important

The overwhelming nature of being short on time

It’s a daily occurrence for me to feel overwhelmed. When you haven’t valued your time for so long, you tend to put off things you want to do. As that list of put off things grows and grows, you start to try and cram more and more things into an ever shrinking schedule. It becomes too much so you just procrastinate and put things off.

You can’t think about all the things you could have achieved over all those years, you just have to focus on today, tomorrow and the next day. Utilize your time as best you can by just staying focused and taking action. It’s better to get some things you know you want done and not worry so much about what they are, than to get stuck on deciding which one you want to do and so never doing anything. At least that has been working for me lately.

Don’t think so much

You know the thing you want to do. You’ve spent so much time thinking about it. But you never do it. Or you start and then stop because you’re not sure of it.

I felt this way for so long and whatever it was would sit in my head just long enough to stop thinking about it. I couldn’t move because I’d be worried about every detail and every scenario. My time was wasted on thinking about a reality instead of just living it.

A few months ago I put something into practice where I just started writing. Every point I stopped and started to question it, I immediately said in my mind “Who cares keep going.”

In that time I ended up actually writing something. I started to move. It didn’t matter what the outcome was I was moving again. I felt like I had been stuck for years so it was really significant for me.

Value time, Take action, Accept wasted time, and iterate

The most important thing here is to find a way to value your time. Truly value it. For me, it meant losing control of most of it. When you value your time, you start to make and find it. When you make the time, take action. Do things that are important to you but don’t worry so much whether or not you’re doing it right or doing the right thing. Accept that you might be writing a blog nobody will ever read because you are still moving in a direction you decided on. Iterate on it and learn. If you try different things and learn you will still grow. Wasted time now might be valued later on when you realize it was needed to get to the next thing.

If you spent the past few years scrolling and regretting, spend this year taking action and you won’t regret it. That’s what I’m doing anyway.

— A D